Listed below are several interventions one can
perform to possibly deter unwanted attention, or discourage ongoing stalking
(Note: several items are repeated from the
- Do not respond to a stalker in any way, shape, or form — this means
not retaliate or seek revenge. This could actually backfire.
- Never reason or bargain with a stalker, this is a futile endeavor.
- If you ever need assistance, yell "FIRE!" to get immediate
people are more likely to respond to this cry for assistance than to any
- When receiving unwanted attention, you shouldn't respond at all.
is too late or unavoidable, don't use statements that can be
- Do not respond to the stalker's request to meet, even in the case of a
- Record all phone conversations and save messages left on answering
- Document the stalking event(s) with as much detail as possible.
- Save evidence and take pictures of any damage caused by the
stalker. Carry a Polaroid or video camera.
- It is wise to create a Logbook to document the time, location, and
- Any suspicious activities should be reported to the police.
- Threats (from minor or vague to severe or specific) should be treated
seriously and immediately reported to the law enforcement.
- Alert critical people to the situation: Law enforcement, employers,
friends, and neighbors.
- Get a restraining order, press charges when it is violated, follow
with the charges. Note: some stalkers may retaliate violently.
- Contact victim assistance programs in your area.
- Enlist the support of family, friends, neighbors, coworkers,
other victims. Let people know about the situation and enlist them as
- Pay attention to your emotional needs during and/or after a stalking.
- Consider getting professional counseling.
- Do not listen to people who think you are inventing or exaggerating the
stalking events or that the stalker is a merely an overzealous romantic.
Changing Behaviors and
- Vary your regular routes of travel (i.e., to work, the store,
- Shop at different stores, try different restaurants.
Protect your privacy:
- Get an unlisted phone number and use Caller ID. Avoid using
- Have co-workers screen calls and visitors.
- Encourage others to keep your personal information confidential.
- Let people know that information about you should be held in confidence
- Change your e-mail address if necessary and do not enter identifying
Target hardening / Personal
- Install solid-core doors with dead bolts and LOCK all your doors and
windows. Keep your pets inside.
- Install adequate outside lighting, motion detectors and/or a home
- Trim back bushes and vegetation around your residence.
- Having a mobile phone and/or beeper can be a great investment.
- Be more vigilant with your children and keep your pets inside at night
and when you're away.
- Be prepared to flee imminent danger:
Have critical phone numbers on hand
Create a survival pack containing clothes, emergency money, and
personal materials (birth certificates, passports, checkbooks
reserve money, personal information, stored non-perishable food).
Always having a full tank of gas and maps.
(Many of the Preventions are modified from The Antistalking Web Site
and the The Privacy Rights Clearinghouse)